Mother Teresa once said, “If you want to change the world, go home and love your family.” It seems obvious, I know. Go home and love your family. But think about it. We schedule appointments, schedule parties, schedule work commitments, schedule time with friends and just about anything else. I realized a short time back that I don’t schedule time with my family like I do other things. At that moment I began being deliberate in planning more time with my family so that other “things” didn’t fill up the calendar and purge my days of time with those I love the most. I wanted to “go home home and love my family” more.
Today I planned “family time”, but wasn’t sure what the time would be filled with until yesterday. I had decided on visiting the Botanical Conservatory in Fort Wayne (yes I know it wasn’t “going home”, but we were going to be together doing something inexpensive that we’d never done before.) Just before we left I looked at the pallets in the garage that needed to be dismantled so that I could finally finish the pallet wall project I started weeks ago. I started to rationalize how the kids didn’t know we were going to the Conservatory so I could take advantage of the beautiful day. I could pull my saw out onto the drive. I could spread the lumber out to visualize it’s placement.
It is family day. You wouldn’t blow off work, church, or friends for a project that only benefits you. Don’t do that to your children either. Teach them to be present in the moment. Teach them that people are more important than projects. Teach them that your word is your bond. If you say family day then mean it. Mean that you are going to be making new memories no matter how big or how small. (This was the dialogue I ha Id with myself.)
I walked back into the house looked at the unfinished wall and thought, finished or unfinished this is still home to 7 people and each of us really wants more time and love from the others. So I am going to offer them more time and more love today. After all, I don’t just want them to know the love I have for them. I want that love to spill out into the world. I want them to show others that people are more important than projects. I want them to change the world one act of love and peace at time.
We went to the Conservatory and even took my young nephew along. The pallets can wait. I didn’t feel disappointment or regret for not working on the wall. Instead I felt peace for investing in my family, for investing in the change I want to see in the world.
For the past few Decembers my dear friend Josh has taken a personal journey to peace. He has since beckoned others to join him in seeking peace for 25 days throughout December. Be it through writing, drawing, music or any other expression, he challenges others to seek, reflect and experience peace. Then the goal is to share it with others so that they too may reflect on peace and in some way take peace for their own and consequently share it with others.
visit www.254peace.org to enjoy peaceful reading and other expressions.